From everydayhealth.com
Moms do a lot (understatement of the year), so when Mother’s Day comes around, it can be tough to choose the perfect gift to express your gratitude. If your mom — or grandma or other mother figure in your life — has rheumatoid arthritis (RA), then choose a thoughtful gift that honours her condition while simultaneously making her life easier.
Finding the right gift for someone with RA can be tricky. First, you should have a good idea of your mom’s relationship with her RA. Is she open about it, sharing when RA is affecting her daily life? Or is she more private, perhaps even keeping her RA diagnosis under wraps?
Someone more open about their condition may be more excited by gifts designed for people with arthritis, like adaptive equipment such as mobility assistive or protective devices. If your mom doesn’t like to talk about her RA, a gift that subtly addresses the challenges she lives with due to RA (like a massage or meal delivery voucher) may be a better choice.
You don’t necessarily want to centre your gift on your mom’s RA on Mother's Day; rather, show her that you notice and care.
Ultimately, you know your mom best. Some prefer pampering, others prefer the practical, and still more want a mix of both. A caring card, flowers, and donation to her favourite charity are always a great place to start. If you want to get more specific to her RA, consider the suggestions below.
1. Jewellery
But that doesn’t mean you have to skip jewellery altogether. “When buying jewellery, look for large or magnetic clasps that don’t require fine pinching,” says Maggie Strode, an occupational therapist and hand therapist who works with people with RA in New York City.
Bracelets, necklaces, and earrings are often better choices than rings. “Rings are tough [for people with RA] because of the swelling that develops in the joints with arthritis,” says Strode.
If your mom particularly loves rings, look for ones that are adjustable in diameter or perhaps can open and close to accommodate fluctuations in finger swelling.
Assistive devices can help with finicky jewellery clasps, too. If you’re giving your mom a non-adaptive piece of jewellery, then adding in one of these devices may mean she gets more use out of your gift.
2. Paraffin Wax Bath
A paraffin wax bath will certainly be appreciated by anyone with RA. This device soothes achy joints in the hands. It is often used during hand therapy sessions for RA, but one can be purchased online and is easy to use and operate at home.
Paraffin wax baths “should not be used by people with a lack of sensation or open wounds,” says Strode. “However, when following the directions, and keeping the bath within 125 to 130 degrees F, they are very soothing.”
Strode also recommends purchasing unscented wax capsules along with the bath, since these are least likely to irritate the skin.
3. Stylish Compression Gloves
Some people with RA may benefit from compression gloves, which are slightly tight gloves that cover the wrists, hands, and fingers but leave the fingertips free for functional activities. “Compression gloves provide warmth and compression that can help manage joint pain and maximize joint mobility,” says Brandy Archie, an occupational therapist and the founder of adaptive equipment resource AskSamie, based in Kansas City, Missouri. People with RA should review the use of compression gloves with their rheumatologist and occupational therapist.
While a lot of compression gloves for arthritis are bulky and clinical looking, Archie notes that you can find sleeker ones in a range of colours — adding a stylish touch to a garment that might otherwise feel like a frustrating reminder of your mom’s RA.
Whether you want to go subtle with skin tones or bright with hot pink or lilac, there are tons of choices.
4. Sun Protection
Clothing like a beach cover-up, loose long shirts and trousers, a sun hoodie, and UV-protected clothing, as well as accessories like a beach umbrella, sun hat, sun gloves, and a luxurious facial sunscreen, are good choices.
5. Loungewear
Beyond sun protection, new clothes in general are a nice gift choice for Mother’s Day.
However, RA can make getting certain clothing on and off challenging. Look for clothes that are easy to put on and take off. For example, skip tops with buttons and tight clothing in favour of loose shifts and open cardigans. “With RA, make sure the clothing is not too restrictive,” says Strode. “Something like linen that is light and generally loose is comfortable.”
If your mom’s been eyeing a special piece of clothing that looks overly complicated to get on and off, then you might consider gifting her some adaptive tools. Devices like button hooks, shoe horns, zipper pulls, magnetic button helpers, shoe buttons (which keep shoelaces in place, preventing the need to retie laces), elastic no-tie shoelaces, and sock aids can make a big difference, so she doesn’t have to sacrifice her fashion sense due to RA.
iStock; Adobe Stock6. Massage or Spa Voucher
First, opt for a voucher instead of booking a massage or spa day outright. This gives your mom some agency, as well as the flexibility to book a date that works for both her RA symptoms and her schedule.
If your mom doesn’t already have a go-to massage therapist, then it’s worth doing some research to find one who’s suitable.
Grace Leger, owner and massage therapist at Elite Injury Rehab in Boulder, Colorado, has experience providing massage services for clients with RA. “When researching locations, first call the front desk and ask if any of the therapists have experience with rheumatoid arthritis,” she says. She advises looking for massage therapists who are familiar with myofascial techniques, chronic pain support, lymphatic drainage, lomilomi (a Polynesian kneading massage), and craniosacral therapy (a gentle hands-on method to help release tension in your body’s connective tissue), all of which may help with RA symptoms.
For something cheaper and more accessible than a professional massage, Leger recommends gifting your mom a lacrosse ball. These firm balls can be great for people with RA to perform self-massage, for example, by rolling their hands on a table.
7. Ergonomic Makeup Tools
Moms who are into beauty and makeup will appreciate restocking their go-to products or getting a trendy product that’s new to the market. However, applying makeup can be tough for people with RA. You may have even noticed that your mom uses makeup less frequently, even if she loved it before.
“Makeup is all fine motor work,” says Archie. “You’re gripping tiny tubes, twisting caps, and holding a mascara wand steady.” RA can particularly affect the finger joints, making them swollen, stiff, and painful to move. “The more you bend and hold those joints steady, the more challenging the task. So putting on makeup is a key challenge,” Archie says.
Look for makeup products with ergonomic containers and consider giving your mom assistive devices that make application easier for stiff hands. Tools like wide grips can be added to nail polish bottles, and there are makeup tools that require a lighter grasp for people with RA.
8. Meal Delivery Subscription
Some companies send meals that are fully prepped and just need to be reheated. Other companies send easy-to-prep meal kits.
“Look for meal kits that have as many prepared veggies as possible,” says Strode, because this can help avoid joint discomfort from repetitive chopping. You might also want to purchase your mom an ergonomic box cutter so she doesn’t have difficulty opening the shipment.
9. Adaptive Cooking Tools
On the flip side, if your mom is an avid home chef, she may not want to give it up due to her RA. Cooking, however, requires lots of twisting, gripping, lifting, and repetitive movements, and this can feel pretty brutal on inflamed joints. Help her work with her RA, not against it, and give her adaptive cooking tools designed for people with limited hand mobility.
Archie recommends electric jar openers and automatic can openers, which reduce joint strain and the risk of injury. You might also consider an electric peeler, rocker knife (for one-motion cutting), spiked cutting board that holds food in place, or extra lightweight pots and pans.
Other kitchen devices that aren’t necessarily marketed as adaptive can also work. For instance, an Instant Pot or air fryer can cut out time in the kitchen and reduce a recipe's steps.
10. Exercise Class Gift Card
“Gentle movement like yoga, tai chi, and Pilates help maintain joint mobility, reduce stiffness, and build the stabilizing muscles around those vulnerable joints,” says Archie.
A gift voucher to a low-impact exercise class (and perhaps even an IOU to attend the class with your mom if her love language is quality time) can support her health. Look for instructors who understand modifications and arthritis.
The Best Mother’s Day Gift for Someone With RA
“The best gifts for someone with RA solve a daily frustration they’ve been quietly working around,” says Archie. “That’s what makes adaptive tools so meaningful. They say, ‘I see you, and I want your day to feel a little easier.’”
Keep that philosophy in mind, and pay attention to what your mom loves to do and what she has trouble doing, and you’ll be sure to pick a gift she’ll adore.
The Takeaway
- When getting gifts for someone with rheumatoid arthritis, consider how RA affects their daily activities, particularly fine motor tasks involving the hands and fingers, which are the joints most commonly affected by this autoimmune disease.
- Adaptive tools like ergonomic kitchen equipment and jewellery with magnetic clasps can help reduce joint strain and make everyday tasks easier without sacrificing style or independence.
- Gentle, low-impact movement can help maintain joint mobility and reduce stiffness, while paraffin wax baths provide soothing relief for achy hands.
- When selecting a Mother’s Day gift, consider whether your mom is open about RA or prefers subtle support, and opt for items or experiences that address her challenges while catering to her interests.
- https://www.everydayhealth.com/rheumatoid-arthritis/mothers-day-gifts/







